Dr. John V. Farrar
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NEAT-NICK OR A SLOB?
Are you a Scrooge or a spendthrift? Do you vacillate or act impulsively? Do you procrastinate or fret prematurely over distant obligations or tasks (Christmas shop in July?) Have you ever missed out on an investment opportunity because of fear and the fact that you’re...
CLIINTON & BUSH: ONE THING IN COMMON
What Did Presidents Clinton and Bush have in Common? Aside from the obvious executive similarity, most of us would be hard pressed to see any commonalities for the two former presidents. The answer? Both were regular exercisers. George would run laps on the track;...
MISTAKES, ERRORS & COMMISSIONS
These days, we can buy insurance for anything. Lawyers, real estate agents, and medical personnel can cover themselves against inadvertent errors flowing from typos, misstatements, and other slips that may lead to some liability. It’s known as “errors and omissions”...
Any Slats Missing?
Last week was a sad and instructive week for me. I attended two funerals, and learned of a third. The first was for a young father and former Marine. He was the husband of a student of mine who tragically left a widow and two beautiful daughters behind. The second...
The Irony of Loss
Imagine that you are attending the viewing of a recently deceased friend. The deceased had been married for over 35 years to his surviving wife. As you enter the viewing room, you notice that the widow of your departed friend is in the back area of the funeral parlor...
The Ultimate “Good News: Bad News” Story
In the world of storytelling, the “good news; bad news” format is as basic as any other structure for narrative. It always involves some kind of twist or reversal of message. I’m using that old vehicle for communication to illustrate today’s point. With that as a...
You are Training Others How to Treat You
A friend of mine, let’s call him Mike, is a recovering alcoholic with twenty years of sobriety. As with many other persons like him, his journey to abstinence was a long and circuitous one. Multiple alcohol-related convictions and various treatment center and...
What is an Elemano?
If you are stumped by the query posed in the title above, I invite my readers to think back to your formative years. If you are able to read this newsletter, it is likely that you developed the skill early in life. How did the process of learning to read begin? For...
How Steady is Your Balance?
Like most Americans, I spent a fair amount of time watching the Olympics a few weeks ago. We engage in the bi-annual event of viewing sports that we otherwise tend to ignore. Due to our patriotic inclinations, we cheer for our water polo and volleyball athletes with...
ANY SLATS MISSING?
Last week was a sad and instructive week for me. I attended two funerals, and learned of a third. The first was for a young father and former Marine. He was the husband of a student of mine who tragically left a widow and two beautiful daughters behind. The...
COMMIT TO THE SHOT!
Life is about Choices. We face them everyday, but we also live with the ones that we made, perhaps years ago, and over the course of our lifetime. Who we ended marrying, or where (or if) we decided to attend college, and the kind of job we pursued all shaped the...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.