Dr. John V. Farrar
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Over my years as a counselor, much of my professional life has been spent in dealing with those suffering from some form of negative addiction. These present in various ways:  alcohol, gambling, or other drugs.  We can harm ourselves with food, compulsive shopping,...

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To be human is to have a collection of memories that tells you who you are and how you got there.  Baldwin A few days ago, I had the chance to spend some time with our son.  He has a demanding career and a family of his...

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He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. Harold Wilson In the middle of a meeting  today, my client’s seemingly casual remark led me to ask an apparently irrelevant question.  I...

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We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are.   ]. Diaz Thankfully, most of us are blessed with good vision.  Reading glasses aside, we awaken each morning with a clear picture of our surroundings.  Our eyes allow us to read, drive, and avoid...

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Probably one of the most misunderstood of all personalities in the social sphere is the braggart.  He is that guy who can’t wait to tell you how he broke par on the front nine or earned the biggest bonus in the history of his company.  She is the woman who...

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We can all thank our grandma or grandfather for the wisdom of today’s title.  I believe that the original point of this advice dealt with the issue of anger management.  The 10 second “countdown” was intended to give us the opportunity to shift from an...

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How’s Your Stool?

No, I’m not beginning this week’s newsletter with a crude joke about a bodily function.  The “stool” I’m talking about is the little one that farmers sit on when they milk their cows – or at least they used to. Alfred Adler, Sigmund Freud’s most famous mentee,...

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Until we have accepted the fact that there is nothing we can do to change the past, our feelings of regret, remorse and bitterness will prevent us from designing abetter future with the opportunity that is before us today. Rohn For most of us, the word “regret” has...

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As most of us know, Hippocrates is generally referred to as “The Father of Modern Medicine.”  As we consider the miracles of medical science, the wonders of life-saving surgery, the formulation of medications to eradicate illness and the development of other...

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                          The only cure for grief is action.” –G. H. Lewis Over the years, much of my writing has evolved from my metaphor of the “snowman.”  Its assumption is that all of our behaviors flow from our thoughts.  Or, more descriptively, they come from...

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Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.

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Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.

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Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate

Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.

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Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.

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