Dr. John V. Farrar
the snowman therapist
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The Snowman Therapist BLOG!
Are You Part of an Unmatched Pair?
Our partners don’t always have to think like we think. That’s what makes life interesting- it would be boring to be married to yourself. In fact, that’s called being single. ...
THE JUGGLER
September 30, 2025 Your brain tries to hold everything at once. It drops things – not out of carelessness but overload. Imagine that you are watching a juggler. Initially, he is handling three balls. Some of us may think, “I can do that.” But the performer...
IS THE JUICE WORTH THE SQUEEZE?
“I’m too busy’ is another way of saying, ‘It’s not a priority.” Most of the time as I work with clients, I’m trying to help them deal with serious problems. Some have an issue with alcohol, gambling, or drugs. Or couples struggle within...
MINDFULNESS: LESSONS FROM THE KARATE KID
Wherever you are, be there totally. - Tolle The iconic film, The Karate Kid, was released in 1984. Along with Dirty Dancing and The Godfather trilogy, the lessons of Mr. Miyagi for his student, Daniel, became part of the contemporary culture of the late 20th...
THE WISDOM OF JIMMY DUGAN
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What is Merit?
One of my earlier recollections about school involved my brother, Ray. He was six years older than I and attended a parochial high school for boys. It was generally acknowledged that he was the “brains” of our family and, predictably, always received...
TWO THOUGHTS: ONE OUTCOME
Those of you who are familiar with this author’s concept of “the Snowman” will understand this month’s message. The Snowman reminds us that everything in our life, our actions and feelings, flow from certain ideas or beliefs that we hold. But what happens...
ARE YOU PERFECT?
The title of today’s newsletter, obviously, must be a rhetorical question. Everyone knows that there is no such thing as perfection. There are no perfect people, situations, or…. relationships. We know...
WHY?
Rise up and tackle the issue with enthusiasm! Since the advent of the counseling profession, therapists have been interested and fascinated by the “why"question. Similarly, their clients were puzzled, and perhaps even plagued, by their own self-defeating behavior. ...
DISMISSIVENESS: WHAT IS IT?
Mediocre minds usually dismiss anything which reaches beyond their own understanding. Francois de La Rochefoucauld Dismissiveness: choosing to dismiss or reject someone or something; having or showing a disdainful attitude toward someone or something regarded as...
MOM OR DAD? LOOK AT THAT METAPHORICAL MIRROR
Children don't need perfect paents; they need happy parents. Sigmund Freud is generally labelled as “the father of modern psychology.” While very few counseling practitioners follow his theories and methods closely, he certainly raised our collective awareness...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.