Dr. John V. Farrar
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MOM OR DAD? LOOK AT THAT METAPHORICAL MIRROR
Children don't need perfect paents; they need happy parents. Sigmund Freud is generally labelled as “the father of modern psychology.” While very few counseling practitioners follow his theories and methods closely, he certainly raised our collective awareness...
TWO SIDES TO PTSD
“Trauma creates change you don’t choose. Healing is about creating change you do choose.” –Michelle Rosenthal For a long time, I have been working with a young, retired US Army enlisted man. My client served in Iraq, and his experiences overseas continue...
Can You Love a Child Too Much?
Discipline is helping a child solve a problem. Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. During a recent counseling session with a new couple,...
ADDICTION: BENEFITS & CONSEQUENCES
Over my years as a counselor, much of my professional life has been spent in dealing with those suffering from some form of negative addiction. These present in various ways: alcohol, gambling, or other drugs. We can harm ourselves with food, compulsive shopping,...
SNAPSHOT
To be human is to have a collection of memories that tells you who you are and how you got there. Baldwin A few days ago, I had the chance to spend some time with our son. He has a demanding career and a family of his...
HOW TALL ARE YOU?
He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. Harold Wilson In the middle of a meeting today, my client’s seemingly casual remark led me to ask an apparently irrelevant question. I...
WHERE ARE YOU LOOKING?
We don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are. ]. Diaz Thankfully, most of us are blessed with good vision. Reading glasses aside, we awaken each morning with a clear picture of our surroundings. Our eyes allow us to read, drive, and avoid...
WE ALL KNOW “THAT GUY/GAL”
Probably one of the most misunderstood of all personalities in the social sphere is the braggart. He is that guy who can’t wait to tell you how he broke par on the front nine or earned the biggest bonus in the history of his company. She is the woman who...
COUNT TO TEN!
We can all thank our grandma or grandfather for the wisdom of today’s title. I believe that the original point of this advice dealt with the issue of anger management. The 10 second “countdown” was intended to give us the opportunity to shift from an...
How Do You Want to be Paid?
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How’s Your Stool?
No, I’m not beginning this week’s newsletter with a crude joke about a bodily function. The “stool” I’m talking about is the little one that farmers sit on when they milk their cows – or at least they used to. Alfred Adler, Sigmund Freud’s most famous mentee,...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.