Dr. John V. Farrar
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TRAINING DAZE

I recently bumped into an old acquaintance. Let’s call him Matt. Matt is a skilled electrician who had much to do with the building of our home, many years ago. Since the project took over a year, I had many opportunities to chat with him about matters outside the...

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KNOWING WHEN TO LET GO

A core ritual of Alcoholics Anonymous is the reading of the “Serenity Prayer.” If some of my readers are cringing about an addiction lecture, STOP! Alcohol is not the topic of this missive, but the wisdom of the prayer is. Essentially, the Serenity Prayer asks us to...

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I AM NINTH…..MAYBE 11TH

We are our choices. Sartre Many years ago, a man named Gale Sayers wrote a book entitled, I am Third. Sayers’ book became popular, largely because of his fame as a professional football icon with the Chicago Bears. But the value of his writing was to be found in its...

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GIFTS

Talent is its own expectation: you either live up to it or it waves a hankie, receding forever. David Foster Wallace What exactly is a gift? Let’s begin by moving away from wrapping paper, Amazon shopping, and Santa. What’s the definition of a gift? Actually, there...

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SOCRATES – THE CLIFF NOTES

I cannot teach people anything; I can only make them think. Socrates SOCRATES - THE CLIFF NOTESOne of the many blessings of my married life is an intelligent spouse with an active mind. For no apparent reason, my wife Anita suggested that we generate a two-person...

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A CASE FOR CIVILITY

The open-minded see the truth in different things; the narrow –minded see only the differences. AnonymousDuring the course of a recent discussion about current events, I referenced the parable of “the blind men from India and the elephant.” For those of you not...

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THE ROOT CAUSE

For every complex problem there is an answer that is clear, simple, and wrong. MenckenI recently had occasion read one of my graduate student’s papers. The assignment was to explore elements of a rather complex topic, and the student had done a thorough and articulate...

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HOW DO YOU MAKE PURPLE?

Paragraph Have a big enough heart to love unconditionally, and a broad enough mind to embrace the differences that make each of us unique. D.B. Harrop Have a big enough heart to love unconditionally, and a broad enough mind to embrace the differences that make...

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I ALWAYS WANTED A LITTLE GIRL

Prologue to Open Verse My lovely wife serves a multitude of roles in our tidy home. Functioning as something between historian, editor, decorator, travel agent, organizer and janitor, Anita recently rummaged through the archives of our lives as expressed in our...

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“YOU ARE ONLY CHEATING YOURSELF.”

How many of us can recall hearing this message when we were kids? As an elementary school student, I remember being puzzled by this intonation. While I understood the difference between being good or bad, as well as the distinction between honesty and dishonesty, the...

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Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.

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Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.

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Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate

Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.

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Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.

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