Dr. John V. Farrar
the snowman therapist

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Thoreau tells us, “Thought is the sculptor that can create the person you want to be.”

This philosophy has been the foundation of my teaching, writing and counseling over the years, and I’ve related it to students and clients alike through my metaphor of the “snowman” as expressed below:

THOUGHTS: Our thoughts and ideas are the architects of our lives. Those operative beliefs generate our behaviors. Simply stated, our BEHAVIORS flow from what we THINK.

BEHAVIORS: Behaviors are not the beginning point of our challenges. While we generally focus upon what we are doing that needs to change, I believe that constructive change begins in our core beliefs and values (THOUGHTS).

FEELINGS: Our emotions are the by-product of our actions, which in turn flow from our thoughts. More positive emotion, therefore, will be the result of clearer, healthier thought patterns.


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Dr. John & Anita Farrar

Dump the Neanderthal
Choose Your Prime Mate

In his ground-breaking book, Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.

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Henry David Thoreau


Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings.

These are the three pillars of the Farrars’ approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.

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Snowman Sessions

Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples, and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.


Snowman Presentations

Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style. Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.