Dr. John V. Farrar
the snowman therapist
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Options & Priorities: which are you?
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump a puddle for you. In the course of our lives, we evolve into many relationships. These involve other people, of course, but can also have to do with other behavioral...
THE CASE AGAINST HUMILITY
If you’re giving love and not receiving it, you’re in the wrong relationship. If you’re receiving love and not giving it, then you are taking advantage of the other person. Stagner The Case Against Humility Last week’s newsletter...
Addiction Can Be a Good Thing?
You can only give what you allow yourself to receive. Lawlis Most of us, when, we hear the word “addiction” understandably have our thoughts turn to dangerous and self-destructive behaviors. But Dr. William Glasser, the creator of Reality Therapy, suggests a...
WHAT SEEDS ARE YOU PLANTING?
What you leave behind is not what is engraved in monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others. Pericles Does your cell phone ever get clogged with messages...
The Sweet Sound of Silence
In my book about relationships, Dump the Neanderthal and Choose your Prime Mate, a salient point was made about the nature and dynamics of communication: “The outcome of the vast majority of communications is predictable” In his landmark book, How to Win...
BRAKES & GAS PEDALS
In the past, we have often written about the limitations of so called “binary thinking.” Such thought asks us to judge almost anything in one of two ways. Right vs. wrong; truth vs lies; good vs. bad, etc. We’ve previously stated that such a simple way of...
WHO IS DOING THE WORK?
"I hated the distance between us .It left me unbalanced - like parts of myself were fading. As a trainer and supervisor of therapists, I see that new practitioners are often faced with a perplexing dilemma. In their zeal to be successful and helpful to their clients,...
TWO LIVES
In 1986, the movie The Natural was made, based upon a novel written by Bernard Malamud in 1952. The film was highly successful, based upon its appeal to sports fans (baseball) and featuring attractive movie stars (Redford, Basinger and Close). But the film and novel have a strongly spiritual and allegorical quality that transcends its entertainment value.
OWN UP TO YOUR YUGO
What’s a Yugo? My readers, ages 50 and below, are probably asking that question. The Yugo was an imported vehicle from eastern Europe, becoming very popular initially, based upon its low selling price and the promise of good MPG. I say “initially” because the little...
10-80-10
Many years ago, a very good friend and mentor of mine passed away unexpectedly. His name was Glen, and he was a football coach. Many of us have an unfair tendency to see those of such occupations as intellectual lightweights, but Glen was an exception to that...
WHO ARE YOUR NEEDLES
School counselors face a demanding job. Depending upon their school, each counselor tends to the needs of anywhere from 250 to over 600 students. Schedules, testing, and dealing with parents all need to be addressed before any real personal counseling can occur. Some...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.