Dr. John V. Farrar
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REGRETS?………. APPRECIATION
Until we have accepted the fact that there is nothing we can do to change the past, our feelings of regret, remorse and bitterness will prevent us from designing abetter future with the opportunity that is before us today. Rohn For most of us, the word “regret” has...
HIPPOCRATES’ MESSAGE
As most of us know, Hippocrates is generally referred to as “The Father of Modern Medicine.” As we consider the miracles of medical science, the wonders of life-saving surgery, the formulation of medications to eradicate illness and the development of other...
A BAD CASE OF THE “SHOULDS”
The only cure for grief is action.” –G. H. Lewis Over the years, much of my writing has evolved from my metaphor of the “snowman.” Its assumption is that all of our behaviors flow from our thoughts. Or, more descriptively, they come from...
ONE SHORT OF A POLYGLOT?
“If you try to buy Christmas with a credit card, you'll miss the point. It's not for sale. True Christmas spirit can only be given away and the price it demands is a piece of your heart.” For those of you who are not studying for the SAT or LSAT, let me remind you...
The Greatest Addiction of All
Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do. Over the past several weeks, we have discussed the concept of positive addiction. As we’ve seen earlier, the concept suggests that happy,...
Holiday Elation (Part 1)
Holidays are neither good nor bad; how we think about them makes the difference. Over the years, I’ve written on more than one occasion about the impact of the holiday season. The generic topic for these commonly-written pieces is “holiday depression.” This...
The Quality of Tavel is Twice Blessed
Be happy, not because everything is perfect, but because you chose to focus on the perfect moments. Roughly 400 years ago, William Shakespeare wrote “The Merchant of Venice” where Portia, a woman posing as a male lawyer (history’s first liberated woman?), utters the...
The Time of Your Life
You are the youngest you’ve ever been; start appreciating it. You’re the oldest you’ve ever been; start acting like...
Options & Priorities: which are you?
There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump a puddle for you. In the course of our lives, we evolve into many relationships. These involve other people, of course, but can also have to do with other behavioral...
THE CASE AGAINST HUMILITY
If you’re giving love and not receiving it, you’re in the wrong relationship. If you’re receiving love and not giving it, then you are taking advantage of the other person. Stagner The Case Against Humility Last week’s newsletter...
Addiction Can Be a Good Thing?
You can only give what you allow yourself to receive. Lawlis Most of us, when, we hear the word “addiction” understandably have our thoughts turn to dangerous and self-destructive behaviors. But Dr. William Glasser, the creator of Reality Therapy, suggests a...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.