Dr. John V. Farrar
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AVOIDING THE SPOTLIGHT
People may take a job for more money, but they often leave it for more recognition.Bob Nelson - Last week, we looked at the first of Dr. Glasser’s four “positive addictions.” In our discussion of “Giving and Receiving Love” we examined the near universal tendency for...
GIVING & RECEIVING LOVE
“Every sunrise is an invitation for us to arise and brighten someone's day.” ? Richelle E. Goodrich What is your low grade? The Psychiatrist and counseling theorist, Dr. William Glasser, tells us that all happy and successful individuals have certain behavioral needs....
STEP ONE: ONE STEP AT A TIME
One Step at a Time? Two newsletters back, I wrote about the concept of honesty, but I referenced the support group, Alcoholics Anonymous, as an excellent example of an entity that is based upon truthfulness. Over the next few weeks, I will be writing about the...
CAN YOU EARN A PINK BELT?
"The ultimate aim of Karate lies not in victory or defeat, but in the perfection of the character of its participants." ~ Gichin Funakoshi As any grandparent can attest, watching our second generation offspring grow, learn, and accomplish goals is a...
STEP 6: WINDOWS & MIRRORS
“Everything needs a mirror to see what to change and what to love in itself, even a rock or a duck, everything!” -Mehmet Murat Ildan One of the common metaphors I use for describing my efforts as a counselor is that of being a “professional mirror holder.” We...
STEP 7: WHOSE JOB IS IT?
In considering the topic of today’s newsletter, the 7th step of AA, I was reminded of an old joke/story that seemed relevant and to the point. It involves a person who died by drowning and begins as she arrives at the Gates of Heaven. It goes like this: God: ...
Step 8: A Most Daunting Task
As we continue in our travels through the 12 Steps of AA, thus far we have essentially been asked to do two things. Looking into our metaphorical mirror, we have first taken a moral inventory. Second, we have shared our shortcomings with another person. Both steps...
Step 5: Secrets Make Us Sick
Think back to when you were a child. It was a day when you had done something wrong at home. Maybe you threw a ball that broke a serving dish or a lamp or left an uncovered magic marker to bleed a permanent green stain on the white velvet love-seat. In fear and...
Step 12: Wisdom from Aristotle
In preparing to comment on the final step from the Twelve Steps of AA, the commonly expressed quote, “People are creatures of habit.” occurred to me. Researching the source of this oft-expressed idea, the trail led to Aristotle. The Greek philosopher identified...
The Vital Matchup
Behavior is the mirror in which people reflect their values. Goethe My wife, Anita, is a woman of many talents, skills, and interests. But more than anything, she loves and promotes reading. In designing our new home, Anita decided to name each room of the house after...
ONLY THREE CHOICES
You have no choices about how you lose, but you do have a choice about how you come back and prepare to win again. Pat Riley Only Three Choices for Every Conflict Imagine that you and your partner, friend, or co-worker are in the midst of some argument or issue of...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.