Dr. John V. Farrar
the snowman therapist
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WE ALL KNOW “THAT GUY/GAL”
Probably one of the most misunderstood of all personalities in the social sphere is the braggart. He is that guy who can’t wait to tell you how he broke par on the front nine or earned the biggest bonus in the history of his company. She is the woman who...
COUNT TO TEN!
We can all thank our grandma or grandfather for the wisdom of today’s title. I believe that the original point of this advice dealt with the issue of anger management. The 10 second “countdown” was intended to give us the opportunity to shift from an...
How Do You Want to be Paid?
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How’s Your Stool?
No, I’m not beginning this week’s newsletter with a crude joke about a bodily function. The “stool” I’m talking about is the little one that farmers sit on when they milk their cows – or at least they used to. Alfred Adler, Sigmund Freud’s most famous mentee,...
REGRETS?………. APPRECIATION
Until we have accepted the fact that there is nothing we can do to change the past, our feelings of regret, remorse and bitterness will prevent us from designing abetter future with the opportunity that is before us today. Rohn For most of us, the word “regret” has...
HIPPOCRATES’ MESSAGE
As most of us know, Hippocrates is generally referred to as “The Father of Modern Medicine.” As we consider the miracles of medical science, the wonders of life-saving surgery, the formulation of medications to eradicate illness and the development of other...
A BAD CASE OF THE “SHOULDS”
The only cure for grief is action.” –G. H. Lewis Over the years, much of my writing has evolved from my metaphor of the “snowman.” Its assumption is that all of our behaviors flow from our thoughts. Or, more descriptively, they come from...
ONE SHORT OF A POLYGLOT?
“If you try to buy Christmas with a credit card, you'll miss the point. It's not for sale. True Christmas spirit can only be given away and the price it demands is a piece of your heart.” For those of you who are not studying for the SAT or LSAT, let me remind you...
The Greatest Addiction of All
Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do. Over the past several weeks, we have discussed the concept of positive addiction. As we’ve seen earlier, the concept suggests that happy,...
Holiday Elation (Part 1)
Holidays are neither good nor bad; how we think about them makes the difference. Over the years, I’ve written on more than one occasion about the impact of the holiday season. The generic topic for these commonly-written pieces is “holiday depression.” This...
The Quality of Tavel is Twice Blessed
Be happy, not because everything is perfect, but because you chose to focus on the perfect moments. Roughly 400 years ago, William Shakespeare wrote “The Merchant of Venice” where Portia, a woman posing as a male lawyer (history’s first liberated woman?), utters the...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.