Dr. John V. Farrar
the snowman therapist
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HOW DO YOU NEED TO S-T-R-E-T-C-H?
Man’’s Mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimension. Oliver Wendell Holmes It is well documented among those who know me that I owe everything I have in life to my wife: a career, a wonderful family, a home, etc. all flow from our growth...
WHAT’S THE BIG IDEA? SNOWMAN RETURNS
The problem in my life and other people's lives is not the absence of knowing what to do but the absence of doing it. Peter Drucker By now, my readers are familiar with the metaphor of the Snowman. It’s injunction that our thoughts generate our behaviors and,...
WANT TO DANCE TO A DIFFERENT TUNE?
One of the classic ways of defining and describing the nature of relationships among couples, work colleagues and within family structures is the "dance metaphor." To fully appreciate it, imagine the following: You and your companion are sitting around a dance floor...
MISSED OPPORTUNITIES
"It is not what you look at that matters. It is what you see." Thoreau As I observe the events of the day, I’m reminded of the old parable describing several blind men from India who encounter an elephant. So the story goes, each man experienced a different part of...
NO ONE LEFT
When we were young children, one of the most offensive labels that one kid could plant on another was “tattletale.” The tattletale was the snotty brownnose who couldn’t wait to tell the teacher about some playground misdemeanor. Or it was a sibling who tattled about...
THE YING & YANG OF THOUGHT & BELIEF
A single footstep will not make a path on the earth. So a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we need to think over and voer the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate...
A MATTER OF VOLUME
What you do matters. You may have a profound impact on a stranger by sharing a smile or word of encouragement. Courtesy of Netflix, my wife Anita and I had the pleasure of re-watching an old classic, To Kill a Mockingbird. The Harper Lee best seller was destined to...
WHERE DO YOU STAND?
In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. — Unknown The science of proxemics can be described as the “science of distances.” It is related to the concept of “body language”...
A TRIAD OF UNFINISHED BUSINESS
A man should not leave this earth with unfinished business. He should live each day as if it were a pre-flight check. He should ask each morning, “Am I prepared to lift off?” Frolov Prudence demands, irrespective of our age and stage in life, that we engage in some...
WHAT IS SYZYGY?
“It is more rewarding to resolve a conflict than to dissolve a relationship.” - Josh McDowell In the process of teaching our graduate course in counseling theory, I re-encountered a term from Carl Gustav Jung. The word is “sygyzy,” and it has applications to...
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. The Story of Ruth & Antonin
I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being. Jackie Robinson A few days ago, news of the sudden death of Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia hit the news. Literally within minutes, the loss of a key figure...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.