Dr. John V. Farrar
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“There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt.”
— Erma Bombeck

Imagine that you were visiting a comedy club, or were watching a standup comedian on TV. Their set appeared to be going well, with the audience laughing at every story or nuance. Then, suddenly, a joke…

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It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Aristotle As most of my readers know, the opening and closing quotes in my newsletters amplify or comment upon the main body’s content without being the subject of the missive,...

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Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, others over self. Dean Jackson A Most Engaging Talent As a professional counselor, I’ve spent much of my life listening. If a caricaturist at a carnival were asked to draw counselors, the artist...

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The Folly of Regret

I recently had the opportunity to assist a recent college graduate with her career planning. Let’s call her Mac. This outstanding young woman is deciding between two career paths: law or counseling. Both professions will require graduate school study and preparation....

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Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do ar ei harmony. Gandhi The Happiness Formula Generally speaking, most of us associate psychology and counseling with problem solving. While beginning therapists are cautioned against advice–giving, the...

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“We can talk about making a difference, or we can make a difference.” Anonymous Unknown Power of Simple Acts Last week, I vented my spleen at the expense of our self- indulgent electorate. I must admit that doing so provided a cathartic benefit for me but probably...

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Most of us can read the writing on the wall; we just assume it’s addressed to someone else. Ivern Ball FLORIDA HAS US REELING It’s February 15. One day after the latest in a disturbingly common event in America’s schools; the mass killing of high school students, a...

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What is the Real Key to Most Success?

CEO's are hired for their intellect and business expertise and fired for their lack of emotional intelligence (Interpersonal Intelligence). Daniel Goleman The Key to Most Success My wife and I are justifiably proud of both of our adult children. Although Anita and I...

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Who Knew? The Source of Insecurities

Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt. Shakespeare Measure for Measure Who Knew? The Source of Insecurities Imagine that you are in the midst of an important interview or are making an important class or business...

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“Don’t compare yourself to others. There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time.” Anonymous Look Bravely into the Mirror! One of the first challengers to the theories and methods of Sigmund Freud was Alfred Adler. Freud, a man of...

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No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you care.  -Theodore Roosevelt Who Are the Really Smart People? Today’s newsletter explores a topic which was discussed in these blogs within snowmantherapy.com. over three years ago. It focused on the concept...

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Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.

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Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.

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Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate

Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.

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Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.

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