Dr. John V. Farrar
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ODD
ODD Odd. It is an interesting little three letter word that has two distinct meanings which are, nevertheless, connected. One definition involves a description of people or situations that seem out of sync or deviating from the norm, i.e., “That man has an odd...
The Irony of Limited Perception
The Irony of Limited Perception In anticipation for the so-called “Game of the Century” last weekend, Alabama coach Nick Saban was interviewed by sports reporters. He explained the challenges that his players faced in preparing for such a high visibility game....
Planets or Shooting Stars?
Planets or Shooting Stars? Everything I know about astronomy will be reflected in this newsletter. This assures that your reading time will be short. I learned as a kid that planets followed in orbits around the sun while shooting stars (meteors burning up in the...
A Critical Distance
A CRITICAL DISTANCE “Responsible Individuals live their lives in the space between necessity and preference” What does this statement mean to you? This phrase occurred to me as I was working with a client recently. He was explaining a problem related to his...
The Subjectivity of Pain
The Subjectivity of Pain Over the past twenty years, a part of my private practice has been the evaluation of adjudicated substance abusers. These involve drinking drivers mostly, but also defendants arrested for being under the influence, or in possession, of other...
You Choose Who You Are
On my office wall at Central Michigan University, I have a poster entitled “Noted Women.” It contains a list of quotes from famous women from the arts, politics, and education. One thoughtful remark came from a successful entrepreneur from the world of cosmetics,...
YOU MIGHT BE AN ADDICT IF……
You might be an addict if…... The affable down-home comedian, Jeff Foxworthy, carved out a successful career for himself initially with a panoply of one-liners built around the introductory phrase “you might be a redneck if…” Aside from being amused by the comedian’s...
Love: A Competition
Love: A Competition Like most men, I grew up with an appetite for competition. From Little League baseball to high school sports, I became accustomed to good-natured striving for success. As a young teacher, I became involved in coaching. This competition took on more...
IF
IF Over one hundred years ago (1895) the British Nobel Laureate, Rudyard Kipling, wrote the famous poem, “If.” While the subject matter is told from the point of view of a father giving instructions to his son on how a man functions, it always struck me that at least...
It’s Not your Fault
It’s Not Your Fault Over the years, one of my clinical functions has been to conduct court-mandated substance abuse evaluations for those convicted of a drug or alcohol-related offense. These may involve “drinking and driving” offenses, drug possession charges or...
Is Your Chariot Balanced?
Are Your Horses Pulling Your Chariot in the Same Direction? When I was the chair of the counseling department at Churchill High School in Livonia, I was once asked by the principal to address problems that the school was facing with ninth graders. As most secondary...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.