Dr. John V. Farrar
the snowman therapist
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ANY SLATS MISSING?
Last week was a sad and instructive week for me. I attended two funerals, and learned of a third. The first was for a young father and former Marine. He was the husband of a student of mine who tragically left a widow and two beautiful daughters behind. The...
COMMIT TO THE SHOT!
Life is about Choices. We face them everyday, but we also live with the ones that we made, perhaps years ago, and over the course of our lifetime. Who we ended marrying, or where (or if) we decided to attend college, and the kind of job we pursued all shaped the...
FATHER’S DAY
Once they arrive a few years past adolescence, most men become a problem for their loved ones on birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries. They frustrate their wives, girlfriends, and children who seek input or possibilities for gifts they can proffer on such...
How is Your Balance Sheet?
June 2012 How’s your balance sheet? My daughter and son are both very successful business people. They often share with me stories and examples regarding sales and customer relations. John is a very successful businessman and Christina could sell snowsuits to...
Disappointment is not Shame!
I’m a movie and trivia fan. My brain seems to be a repository of useless information. One of those more arcane morsels of unimportant facts is that Marlon Brando, the very prolific and talented actor, directed only one movie in his long career: One Eyed Jacks. It was...
ONE YEAR AGO
One Year Ago ….….. Most anniversaries are celebrations: birthdays, wedding celebrations, perhaps holidays like Christmas or the 4th. Still, some dates are fixed in our memory that are not recalled fondly. These memorable dates are vivid because of some sense of loss...
ARE YOU REHEARSING FOR THE ROLE YOU WANT TO PLAY?
Shakespeare wrote: All the world's a stage, ?And all the men and women merely players; ?They have their exits and their entrances, ?And one man in his time plays many parts…. A variation of this concept has been postulated by contemporary psychology through the...
YOU CAN BE ANY KIND!
You Can Be “Any Kind” This Saturday, the most famous race of all, the Kentucky Derby, will take place. For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt a kindred with thoroughbred horses. My family name – Farrar – literally means ‘blacksmith.” It stems from the chemical...
THINKING ONESELF INTO FUNCTIONALITY
As regular readers of this newsletter can attest, much of my writing is built around my basic concept of the “snowman.” As the description on the website explains, the metaphor of the snowman explains the theory that all of our behavioral decisions flow from a...
EVERY THOUGHT IS A PRAYER
Much of my life (as well as the meticulous grammar of these newsletters!) is owed to my wife, Anita. She is smart, beautiful, and the source of my happiness. Aside from all that, she is my business partner in our counseling, consulting, and workshop efforts. As we...
“….bit names will need hurt me.” So Not True!
"...but names will never hurt me!" So Not True! There probably has never been a LESS accurate childhood bromide than, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names (words?) will never hurt me." Physiologically that's accurate, I suppose, but psychologically, it's...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.