Dr. John V. Farrar
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LOVE & SMOKE
If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much. Jackie Kennedy Alfred Adler, one of the pioneers in developmental psychology, tells us that happy and productive individuals have three life tasks: occupation, friendship, and...
DO YOU HAVE A TIC?
Genius is the capacity for productive reaction against one's training. Bernard Berenson Definition: tic: a small repeated movement of a muscle, especially of the face, that cannot be controlled. Most of us are fortunate that we do not suffer from this malady. For...
HOW ARE YOU SMART?
The surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere in the universe is that it has never tried to contact us. Bill Watterson Some of my readers, considering this week’s title, may assume that there was a grammatical error made by the writer. Did he mean to...
STRINGS OR ROPES? PEBBLES OR ROCKS?
If you carry the bricks from past relationships, you’ll end up building the same house.” Some years ago, I worked with a man who presented issues related to his marriage and substance involvement. In the course of his treatment, the topics moved to his family of...
THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE
The man who makes no mistakes does not usually make anything. - Magee When we see a friend, family member, or even a stranger who is struggling with some addiction or other negative and self-defeating behavior, what do we think? And how do we feel? The responses may...
DO YOU HAVE A 50 DOLLAR BILL IN YOUR LIFE (WALLET)?
Perhaps it is fitting on the 13th anniversary of 9/11/01 to reflect on the message of today’s newsletter and give thanks to those who serve and protect us. Some years ago, when my daughter, Christina, left Michigan to begin her studies at the University of Florida, I...
The Price of Change
Without change, something sleeps inside us, and seldom awakens. Frank Herbert A few days ago, I learned of an important challenge facing one of my clients. The issue involved making a significant decision surrounding employment. She was faced with complex issues and...
Be Nice
Remember that everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something and has lost something. While recently on vacation, I had the opportunity to travel with a new acquaintance. Touring through the State of Alaska, my wife, Anita, and I daily shared our experiences...
Secrets: The Silent Saboteurs!
Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets. – Paul Tournier Some months ago, I wrote a newsletter entitled “Secrets make us Sick.” It discussed the therapeutic value of acknowledging past mistakes. The point of that piece, I believe, was worth reiterating through the...
Longing to Belong
Every terrorist regime in the world uses isolation to break people's spirits. Bell Hooks Think back to what I often refer to as “the low point in human existence” – middle school or junior high. Few of us have fond memories of that stage in our growth and development...
Endless Season: Taking the Longer View
Distance lends enchantment to the view. _Mark Twain It’s my roll and it’s a six. As I move my top hat from Community Chest, I can anticipate my landing spot. I float over the green affluence of Pennsylvania Avenue, the financial stability of the Short Line Railroad,...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.