Dr. John V. Farrar
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Life is a Rorschach Test
“What if the way we perceive a problem is already part of the problem?” Zizek Life is a Rorschach Test Rorschach test- a psychological test in which subjects’ perceptions of inkblots are recorded using psychological interpretation, algorithms or both. It is generally...
Holiday Depression: the Snowman’s Take on It
“Grief is the price we pay for love.” Queen Elizabeth II Over the years, we have commented upon the ironic response to the “happiest time of the year.” We have reflected upon the painful reminiscing over departed loved ones and the loneliness that often accompanies...
CRUISING ON THE CONTINUUM
Once your awareness becomes a flame, it burns up the whole slavery that the mind has created. ~Osho?? On a recent trip, my wife and I met a very engaging couple. In the course of our conversations, the husband identified himself as having a tendency toward...
TICK-TOCK; TICK-TOCK; IT’S ALL ABOUT THE TIMING!
As a young high school teacher, many years ago, I once made a highly unromantic observation to a class of senior psychology students. Attempting to make a point about relationships and stages of development, I observed the following: We will marry (or enter into a...
BROKEN CRAYONS CAN STILL COLOR A BEAUTIFUL PICTURE
The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are stronger at the broken places. Ernest Hemingway Broken Crayons Can Still Color Beautiful Pictures It has been said that we make God laugh when we make plans. Think back to when you were old enough to start picturing...
COMMITTING TO THE SHOT!
“Commitment is doing the thing you said you were going to do -----long after the mood you said it in has left you.” anonymous Life is about choices. We face them everyday, but we also live with the ones that we made, perhaps years ago, and over the course of our...
LIGHTING THE FUSE & DOUSING IT!
Just remember, when you ignore your significant other (silent treatment), you are teaching them to live without you. Lighting the Fuse……And Dousing It A few newsletters ago, we spoke of “Joe the Doorman.” In that article, we discussed the relative...
DON’T LOOK TOO FAST!
To love a person is to see all of their magic, and to remind them of it when they have forgotten. When you take things for granted, the things you are granted, get taken. “Don’t Look Too Fast” Today, my lovely wife was having a bad day. Nothing major, she would...
ARE YOU LOST OR IN KANSAS?
We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” Keonig 1939 is generally regarded as the greatest single year in American moviemaking. Jimmy Stewart went to...
JOE THE DOORMAN
Relationships don’t last because of good times. They last because the hard times were handled with love and care. – Anna Andore A staple of any therapist’s practice revolves around relationship counseling. Marital partners or couples living together in...
PARTNERS: BAD CHOICES OR OPPORTUNITIES?
I don’t ask you to love me always like this, but I ask you to remember. Somewhere inside of me there will always be the person I am tonight. F. Scott Fitzgerald – Tender is the Night Love is a topic that we Americans know little about. And how could we? Nobody ever...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.