The Snowman Therapist BLOG!
The problem in my life and other people's lives is not the absence of knowing what to do but the absence of doing it. Peter Drucker By now, my readers are familiar with the metaphor of the Snowman. It’s injunction that our thoughts generate our behaviors and,...read more
One of the classic ways of defining and describing the nature of relationships among couples, work colleagues and within family structures is the "dance metaphor." To fully appreciate it, imagine the following: You and your companion are sitting around a dance floor...read more
"It is not what you look at that matters. It is what you see." Thoreau As I observe the events of the day, I’m reminded of the old parable describing several blind men from India who encounter an elephant. So the story goes, each man experienced a different part of...read more
When we were young children, one of the most offensive labels that one kid could plant on another was “tattletale.” The tattletale was the snotty brownnose who couldn’t wait to tell the teacher about some playground misdemeanor. Or it was a sibling who tattled about...read more
A single footstep will not make a path on the earth. So a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we need to think over and voer the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate...read more
What you do matters. You may have a profound impact on a stranger by sharing a smile or word of encouragement. Courtesy of Netflix, my wife Anita and I had the pleasure of re-watching an old classic, To Kill a Mockingbird. The Harper Lee best seller was destined to...read more
In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. — Unknown The science of proxemics can be described as the “science of distances.” It is related to the concept of “body language”...read more
A man should not leave this earth with unfinished business. He should live each day as if it were a pre-flight check. He should ask each morning, “Am I prepared to lift off?” Frolov Prudence demands, irrespective of our age and stage in life, that we engage in some...read more
“It is more rewarding to resolve a conflict than to dissolve a relationship.” - Josh McDowell In the process of teaching our graduate course in counseling theory, I re-encountered a term from Carl Gustav Jung. The word is “sygyzy,” and it has applications to...read more
I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being. Jackie Robinson A few days ago, news of the sudden death of Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia hit the news. Literally within minutes, the loss of a key figure...read more
“What if the way we perceive a problem is already part of the problem?” Zizek Life is a Rorschach Test Rorschach test- a psychological test in which subjects’ perceptions of inkblots are recorded using psychological interpretation, algorithms or both. It is generally...read more
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars’ approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.
Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.