The Snowman Therapist BLOG!
Most people grow old; not everybody grows up. Are You “Growing Down”? When I was a child, I can recall various times and situations when I heard the adult dictum to “grow up.” Usually, this directive occurred when I (or some other kid) was being chastised for some...read more
The art of giving advice is to make the recipient believe s/he thought of it him/herself. Tygre Many years ago, I was a high school basketball coach. Like most of my peers, I spent much of my game time yelling at referees. On a continuum ranging from docile to Bobby...read more
The failed pessimist shrinks from his deficits while the successful optimist expands upon his assets. John V. Farrar The sports world was agog (at least for one day) with the news that Magic Johnson abruptly resigned as the president of the NBA Los Angeles Lakers,...read more
The easy way to learn is from others’ mistakes. The hard way is from your own mistakes. The tragic way is not learning from either. Zahoor Most great literature involves some form of tragedy. While Shakespeare also wrote brilliant comedies, his finest work typically...read more
Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. Fulghum I seem to have trouble keeping up with my own culture and social milieu. Just when I’d become comfortable and conversant with what “helicopter parents” are, I bumped up...read more
We don’t get what we deserve. We get what we believe we deserve. Don Cooper I’ve always been struck by the phrase that is encapsulated in today’s title. We often hear it used in a negative way, as “The bad guy got what he deserved.” as he was arrested, or caught, or...read more
The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come. After watching a few re-runs of an old courtroom series, “The Practice,” my wife and I speculated upon my career choice, going back many years. As a college student and young adult, I always...read more
As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our...read more
Don’t bury your failures; let them inspire you. -Kiyosaki In 1729, Jonathon Swift established a new genre of writing with his straightforward satirical piece, “A Modest Proposal.” In it, he deadpanned a solution to the economic hardship visited upon the Irish as a...read more
“It’s not your blue blood, your pedigree, or your college degree. It’s what you do with your life that counts.”
— Millard Fuller
Every first Saturday in May, more than a dozen thoroughbred horses “go to the post” in the Kentucky Derby. Most TV viewers, who probably watch only one race per year, know nothing about…read more
“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”
Today’s message will flow from three seemingly unrelated incidents in your author’s recent (and distant) past.
Nine years after building our current home, we began experiencing some problems with our…read more
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.