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Sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my cheeks. The Times of My Life Who is Paul Anka? My guess is that I’ve stumped my “under age 40 or 50” readers while my generational peer group may be wondering why I evoked a name from their musical past. For...read more
The problem is that we always look for the missing piece of the puzzle instead of finding a place for the one in our hand. Radoi In the course of training future counselors, I would often caution those grad students about the importance of information gathering. All...read more
Sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my cheeks. The Times of Your Life Who is Paul Anka? My guess is that I’ve stumped my “under age 40 or 50” readers while my generational peer group may be wondering why I evoked a name from their musical past. For...read more
The art of living is a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. Havelock Ellis I recently had the opportunity to visit with a friend who had lost his wife two years ago. His was a long and rewarding marriage that ended sooner than he had ever imagined. Like most...read more
If you want something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done. Back to the Burning Barn? I was recently asked to review a book written by one of my former students, Tanya Bankston. Her compelling tale is one of personal change and...read more
“There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt.”
— Erma Bombeck
Imagine that you were visiting a comedy club, or were watching a standup comedian on TV. Their set appeared to be going well, with the audience laughing at every story or nuance. Then, suddenly, a joke…read more
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Aristotle As most of my readers know, the opening and closing quotes in my newsletters amplify or comment upon the main body’s content without being the subject of the missive,...read more
Listening is an art that requires attention over talent, spirit over ego, others over self. Dean Jackson A Most Engaging Talent As a professional counselor, I’ve spent much of my life listening. If a caricaturist at a carnival were asked to draw counselors, the artist...read more
I recently had the opportunity to assist a recent college graduate with her career planning. Let’s call her Mac. This outstanding young woman is deciding between two career paths: law or counseling. Both professions will require graduate school study and preparation....read more
Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do ar ei harmony. Gandhi The Happiness Formula Generally speaking, most of us associate psychology and counseling with problem solving. While beginning therapists are cautioned against advice–giving, the...read more
“We can talk about making a difference, or we can make a difference.” Anonymous Unknown Power of Simple Acts Last week, I vented my spleen at the expense of our self- indulgent electorate. I must admit that doing so provided a cathartic benefit for me but probably...read more
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
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