The Snowman Therapist BLOG!
We don’t get what we deserve. We get what we believe we deserve. Don Cooper I’ve always been struck by the phrase that is encapsulated in today’s title. We often hear it used in a negative way, as “The bad guy got what he deserved.” as he was arrested, or caught, or...read more
The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come. After watching a few re-runs of an old courtroom series, “The Practice,” my wife and I speculated upon my career choice, going back many years. As a college student and young adult, I always...read more
As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our...read more
Don’t bury your failures; let them inspire you. -Kiyosaki In 1729, Jonathon Swift established a new genre of writing with his straightforward satirical piece, “A Modest Proposal.” In it, he deadpanned a solution to the economic hardship visited upon the Irish as a...read more
“It’s not your blue blood, your pedigree, or your college degree. It’s what you do with your life that counts.”
— Millard Fuller
Every first Saturday in May, more than a dozen thoroughbred horses “go to the post” in the Kentucky Derby. Most TV viewers, who probably watch only one race per year, know nothing about…read more
“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”
Today’s message will flow from three seemingly unrelated incidents in your author’s recent (and distant) past.
Nine years after building our current home, we began experiencing some problems with our…read more
All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.” —Jim Rohn My son wears a rubberband on his wrist. Daily. Why? Because his grandfather wore one. Years ago, my father-in-law, Fred...read more
Sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my cheeks. The Times of My Life Who is Paul Anka? My guess is that I’ve stumped my “under age 40 or 50” readers while my generational peer group may be wondering why I evoked a name from their musical past. For...read more
The problem is that we always look for the missing piece of the puzzle instead of finding a place for the one in our hand. Radoi In the course of training future counselors, I would often caution those grad students about the importance of information gathering. All...read more
Sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my cheeks. The Times of Your Life Who is Paul Anka? My guess is that I’ve stumped my “under age 40 or 50” readers while my generational peer group may be wondering why I evoked a name from their musical past. For...read more
The art of living is a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. Havelock Ellis I recently had the opportunity to visit with a friend who had lost his wife two years ago. His was a long and rewarding marriage that ended sooner than he had ever imagined. Like most...read more
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.