The Snowman Therapist BLOG!
I learned that sometimes a life journey can take you to a place that is not on any map. - Cold Fever (movie) Do You Need to Find a New Fork in the Road? My wife and I recently availed ourselves of the All-American “Spring Break” tradition.” While this term may...read more
This is not a letter but my arms about you for a brief moment. Katherine Mansfield Holidays are over. Decorations stored away. Resolutions made. We find ourselves at the start of the New Year returning to a predictable routine. Take a moment and reflect on the...read more
Man’’s Mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimension. Oliver Wendell Holmes It is well documented among those who know me that I owe everything I have in life to my wife: a career, a wonderful family, a home, etc. all flow from our growth...read more
The problem in my life and other people's lives is not the absence of knowing what to do but the absence of doing it. Peter Drucker By now, my readers are familiar with the metaphor of the Snowman. It’s injunction that our thoughts generate our behaviors and,...read more
One of the classic ways of defining and describing the nature of relationships among couples, work colleagues and within family structures is the "dance metaphor." To fully appreciate it, imagine the following: You and your companion are sitting around a dance floor...read more
"It is not what you look at that matters. It is what you see." Thoreau As I observe the events of the day, I’m reminded of the old parable describing several blind men from India who encounter an elephant. So the story goes, each man experienced a different part of...read more
When we were young children, one of the most offensive labels that one kid could plant on another was “tattletale.” The tattletale was the snotty brownnose who couldn’t wait to tell the teacher about some playground misdemeanor. Or it was a sibling who tattled about...read more
A single footstep will not make a path on the earth. So a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we need to think over and voer the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate...read more
What you do matters. You may have a profound impact on a stranger by sharing a smile or word of encouragement. Courtesy of Netflix, my wife Anita and I had the pleasure of re-watching an old classic, To Kill a Mockingbird. The Harper Lee best seller was destined to...read more
In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. — Unknown The science of proxemics can be described as the “science of distances.” It is related to the concept of “body language”...read more
A man should not leave this earth with unfinished business. He should live each day as if it were a pre-flight check. He should ask each morning, “Am I prepared to lift off?” Frolov Prudence demands, irrespective of our age and stage in life, that we engage in some...read more
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars’ approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.
Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.