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In human relationships, distance is not measured in miles but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. — Unknown The science of proxemics can be described as the “science of distances.” It is related to the concept of “body language”...read more
A man should not leave this earth with unfinished business. He should live each day as if it were a pre-flight check. He should ask each morning, “Am I prepared to lift off?” Frolov Prudence demands, irrespective of our age and stage in life, that we engage in some...read more
“It is more rewarding to resolve a conflict than to dissolve a relationship.” - Josh McDowell In the process of teaching our graduate course in counseling theory, I re-encountered a term from Carl Gustav Jung. The word is “sygyzy,” and it has applications to...read more
I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me... All I ask is that you respect me as a human being. Jackie Robinson A few days ago, news of the sudden death of Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia hit the news. Literally within minutes, the loss of a key figure...read more
“What if the way we perceive a problem is already part of the problem?” Zizek Life is a Rorschach Test Rorschach test- a psychological test in which subjects’ perceptions of inkblots are recorded using psychological interpretation, algorithms or both. It is generally...read more
“Grief is the price we pay for love.” Queen Elizabeth II Over the years, we have commented upon the ironic response to the “happiest time of the year.” We have reflected upon the painful reminiscing over departed loved ones and the loneliness that often accompanies...read more
Once your awareness becomes a flame, it burns up the whole slavery that the mind has created. ~Osho?? On a recent trip, my wife and I met a very engaging couple. In the course of our conversations, the husband identified himself as having a tendency toward...read more
As a young high school teacher, many years ago, I once made a highly unromantic observation to a class of senior psychology students. Attempting to make a point about relationships and stages of development, I observed the following: We will marry (or enter into a...read more
The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are stronger at the broken places. Ernest Hemingway Broken Crayons Can Still Color Beautiful Pictures It has been said that we make God laugh when we make plans. Think back to when you were old enough to start picturing...read more
“Commitment is doing the thing you said you were going to do -----long after the mood you said it in has left you.” anonymous Life is about choices. We face them everyday, but we also live with the ones that we made, perhaps years ago, and over the course of our...read more
Just remember, when you ignore your significant other (silent treatment), you are teaching them to live without you. Lighting the Fuse……And Dousing It A few newsletters ago, we spoke of “Joe the Doorman.” In that article, we discussed the relative...read more
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars’ approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.
Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.