by Snowman Therapist | Apr 23, 2012 | Thoughts
As regular readers of this newsletter can attest, much of my writing is built around my basic concept of the “snowman.” As the description on the website explains, the metaphor of the snowman explains the theory that all of our behavioral decisions flow from a...
by Snowman Therapist | Apr 17, 2012 | Thoughts
Much of my life (as well as the meticulous grammar of these newsletters!) is owed to my wife, Anita. She is smart, beautiful, and the source of my happiness. Aside from all that, she is my business partner in our counseling, consulting, and workshop efforts. As we...
by Snowman Therapist | Feb 28, 2012 | Behaviors, Thoughts
I recently was counseling a man who expressed regret and shame over his divorce of some years ago. He described in detail his actions that led to the demise of his marriage. He also listed behaviors (including infidelity) of his ex-wife during the marriage but had...
by Snowman Therapist | Feb 14, 2012 | Behaviors, Thoughts
Forgiveness Two: The Gift A few years ago, I was conducting an initial interview with a new client. I was gathering basic demographic information, asking him about his family background. He stated that he had three sisters. He added that they were very close, both...
by Snowman Therapist | Feb 7, 2012 | Behaviors, Thoughts
Imagine the following: A friend meets you for lunch. You notice that his right shoulder is drooping. He reaches out to greet you with his left hand rather than the right “hand shaking” hand. The right arm hangs lifelessly at his side. As he sits down, you cannot...
by Snowman Therapist | Jan 11, 2012 | Thoughts
As many of my readers know, much of my private practice involves working with negative addictions. Over the past 30 years, I’ve learned a great deal about both the physiology as well as the psychology of substance-related addictions. I have great empathy for...
