by Snowman Therapist | Jul 23, 2013 | Thoughts
Behavior is the mirror in which people reflect their values. Goethe My wife, Anita, is a woman of many talents, skills, and interests. But more than anything, she loves and promotes reading. In designing our new home, Anita decided to name each room of the house after...
by Snowman Therapist | Apr 25, 2013 | Behaviors, Feelings, Thoughts
In considering the concepts laid out in the 10th step of AA, a somewhat contradictory notion occurred to me. While the step invites us to re-visit our inventory, the step also asks us to admit to wrongdoing. The step narrates: Continued to take personal inventory...
by Snowman Therapist | Apr 24, 2013 | Behaviors, Feelings, Thoughts
Being in love means “never having to say you’re sorry”? Really? No, it means having to make amends, restitution: actually investing energy, thought and action in making things right once again. Over the course of a lifetime, all of us have occasion...
by Snowman Therapist | Feb 19, 2013 | Thoughts
We must build dikes of courage to hold back the flood of fear. – Martin Luther King Contrary to what most people believe, therapists are not advisors. It is not the therapists’ job to tell our clients what to do. Instead, I suggest to both my clients that counselors...
by Snowman Therapist | Jan 9, 2013 | Thoughts
Oh, what tangled webs we weave, When first we practice to deceive. -Sir Walter Scott On the surface, the answer to the above question seems obvious. It must be dishonesty. And yet, more often than not, the other end of the continuum that has honesty on one side has a...
by Snowman Therapist | Jan 6, 2013 | Thoughts
For a long time, the metaphor of “boiling a frog” has engaged me. It is based upon the notion that, if thrown into a cauldron of boiling water, the frog would jump out. Conversely, it has been postulated that a frog in room temperature water could be lulled and...
