Dr. John V. Farrar
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AN EVEN MORE MODEST PROPOSAL
Don’t bury your failures; let them inspire you. -Kiyosaki In 1729, Jonathon Swift established a new genre of writing with his straightforward satirical piece, “A Modest Proposal.” In it, he deadpanned a solution to the economic hardship visited upon the Irish as a...
WHAT IS YOUR PEDIGREE?
“It’s not your blue blood, your pedigree, or your college degree. It’s what you do with your life that counts.”
— Millard Fuller
Every first Saturday in May, more than a dozen thoroughbred horses “go to the post” in the Kentucky Derby. Most TV viewers, who probably watch only one race per year, know nothing about…
MODELS OF HONOR
“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”
— Socrates
Today’s message will flow from three seemingly unrelated incidents in your author’s recent (and distant) past.
Nine years after building our current home, we began experiencing some problems with our…
THE RUBBERBAND
All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.” —Jim Rohn My son wears a rubberband on his wrist. Daily. Why? Because his grandfather wore one. Years ago, my father-in-law, Fred...
The Times of my Life
Sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my cheeks. The Times of My Life Who is Paul Anka? My guess is that I’ve stumped my “under age 40 or 50” readers while my generational peer group may be wondering why I evoked a name from their musical past. For...
THE MISSING PIECE
The problem is that we always look for the missing piece of the puzzle instead of finding a place for the one in our hand. Radoi In the course of training future counselors, I would often caution those grad students about the importance of information gathering. All...
The Times of my Life
Sometimes memories sneak out of my eyes and roll down my cheeks. The Times of Your Life Who is Paul Anka? My guess is that I’ve stumped my “under age 40 or 50” readers while my generational peer group may be wondering why I evoked a name from their musical past. For...
THE UNIVERSAL ANTIDOTE
The art of living is a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. Havelock Ellis I recently had the opportunity to visit with a friend who had lost his wife two years ago. His was a long and rewarding marriage that ended sooner than he had ever imagined. Like most...
BACK TO THE BURNING BARN?
If you want something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done. Back to the Burning Barn? I was recently asked to review a book written by one of my former students, Tanya Bankston. Her compelling tale is one of personal change and...
THE TWO H’S
“There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt.”
— Erma Bombeck
Imagine that you were visiting a comedy club, or were watching a standup comedian on TV. Their set appeared to be going well, with the audience laughing at every story or nuance. Then, suddenly, a joke…
WHO ARE THE EDUCATED ONES?
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Aristotle As most of my readers know, the opening and closing quotes in my newsletters amplify or comment upon the main body’s content without being the subject of the missive,...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.