MOM OR DAD? LOOK AT THAT METAPHORICAL MIRROR

Children don’t need perfect paents; they need happy parents. Sigmund Freud is generally labelled as “the father of modern psychology.”  While very few counseling practitioners follow his theories and methods closely, he certainly raised our collective...

TWO SIDES TO PTSD

“Trauma creates change you don’t choose. Healing is about creating change you do choose.” –Michelle Rosenthal For a long time, I have been working with a young, retired US Army enlisted man.   My client served in Iraq, and his experiences overseas continue...

Can You Love a Child Too Much?

Discipline is helping a child solve a problem.  Punishment is making a child suffer for having a problem. During a recent counseling session with a new couple, I gathered some basic background information. Both partners described a childhood that was rife with neglect...

ADDICTION: BENEFITS & CONSEQUENCES

Over my years as a counselor, much of my professional life has been spent in dealing with those suffering from some form of negative addiction. These present in various ways:  alcohol, gambling, or other drugs.  We can harm ourselves with food, compulsive shopping,...

SNAPSHOT

To be human is to have a collection of memories that tells you who you are and how you got there.  Baldwin A few days ago, I had the chance to spend some time with our son.  He has a demanding career and a family of his own, so our opportunities for relaxed,...