Dr. John V. Farrar
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Advice? Take My Advice

The art of giving advice is to make the recipient believe s/he thought of it him/herself. Tygre Many years ago, I was a high school basketball coach. Like most of my peers, I spent much of my game time yelling at referees. On a continuum ranging from docile to Bobby...

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The failed pessimist shrinks from his deficits while the successful optimist expands upon his assets. John V. Farrar The sports world was agog (at least for one day) with the news that Magic Johnson abruptly resigned as the president of the NBA Los Angeles Lakers,...

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Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. Fulghum I seem to have trouble keeping up with my own culture and social milieu. Just when I’d become comfortable and conversant with what “helicopter parents” are, I bumped up...

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We don’t get what we deserve. We get what we believe we deserve. Don Cooper I’ve always been struck by the phrase that is encapsulated in today’s title. We often hear it used in a negative way, as “The bad guy got what he deserved.” as he was arrested, or caught, or...

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The only time you should ever look back is to see how far you’ve come. After watching a few re-runs of an old courtroom series, “The Practice,” my wife and I speculated upon my career choice, going back many years. As a college student and young adult, I always...

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As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our...

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Don’t bury your failures; let them inspire you. -Kiyosaki In 1729, Jonathon Swift established a new genre of writing with his straightforward satirical piece, “A Modest Proposal.” In it, he deadpanned a solution to the economic hardship visited upon the Irish as a...

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“It’s not your blue blood, your pedigree, or your college degree. It’s what you do with your life that counts.”
— Millard Fuller

Every first Saturday in May, more than a dozen thoroughbred horses “go to the post” in the Kentucky Derby. Most TV viewers, who probably watch only one race per year, know nothing about…

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“The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.”
— Socrates

Today’s message will flow from three seemingly unrelated incidents in your author’s recent (and distant) past.

Nine years after building our current home, we began experiencing some problems with our…

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All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.” —Jim Rohn My son wears a rubberband on his wrist. Daily. Why? Because his grandfather wore one. Years ago, my father-in-law, Fred...

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Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.

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Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.

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Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate

Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.

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Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.

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