Dr. John V. Farrar
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I ALWAYS WANTED A LITTLE GIRL
Prologue to Open Verse My lovely wife serves a multitude of roles in our tidy home. Functioning as something between historian, editor, decorator, travel agent, organizer and janitor, Anita recently rummaged through the archives of our lives as expressed in our...
“YOU ARE ONLY CHEATING YOURSELF.”
How many of us can recall hearing this message when we were kids? As an elementary school student, I remember being puzzled by this intonation. While I understood the difference between being good or bad, as well as the distinction between honesty and dishonesty, the...
Are You Worth More Than 89 Cents?
Science tells us that our body is worth exactly 89 cents in chemicals, post- mortem. That doesn’t do much for our self-esteem, does it? The good news is that we all have an opportunity to “add value” to our personal worth. Before we go forth with this topic, however,...
ARE YOU BLINDED BY YOUR BLIND SPOTS?
The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none. Carlyle In 1955, Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham created the heuristic tool, the Johari Window. The purpose of the “window” is for all of us to gain a higher level of self-understanding. The Johari Window has four...
I’M SORRY
“Any good apology has 3 parts: 1) I’m sorry ; 2) It’s my fault ; 3) What can I do to make it right? Most people forget the third part." One of the few oases in what Newton Minnow once famously referred to as “a vast wasteland” (he meant television), is the NBC series...
C’MON! BE HONEST!
It is January 6 as I am composing the first newsletter of the year. My readers will likely not receive or get to it for a few more days. By then, most of you will have done one (or two) of the following: 1. Made New Year’s resolution(s) 2. Broken #1 3. Not made any...
WHAT I LEARNED AT THE MOVIES
I hate getting to the movies on time. Why? Because being on time is actually arriving way too early. It means sitting through interminable numbers of coming attractions while eating most of my popcorn before the show starts. Obviously, I’m a slow learner when it comes...
ARE YOU BINARY?
I hate getting to the movies on time. Why? Because being on time is actually arriving way too early. It means sitting through interminable numbers of coming attractions while eating most of my popcorn before the show starts. Obviously, I’m a...
YOUR LIFE IS A GESTALT
Appreciate life even if it’s not perfect. Happiness is not fulfillment of what we wish for but an appreciation of what we have. Unless my reader has clear roots with Germany, this seldom seen word in today’s title may be foreign to you. Gestalt is a German word that...
WHAT’S YOUR BIG IDEA?
A lot of people have gone farther than they thought they could because someone else thought they could. - Anonymous By now, most of my readers are familiar with this author’s metaphor of the “snowman.” It is my representation that all human endeavor flows from one’s...
GRACE & GRATITUDE
Enjoy the little things. For one day, you may look back and realize they were the big things. R. Brault. Grace and Gratitude In 1995, Gary Chapman published The Five Love Languages. This simply written, layman-oriented book, described the five ways in which we express...
THE BOOK IS HERE!!
Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.
Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.
Dr. John is an enthusiastic and entertaining presenter, able to convey his cognitively-oriented messages to audiences with a clear and entertaining style.
Call him today to schedule a workshop or seminar for you or your organization.