Dr. John V. Farrar
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Appreciate life even if it’s not perfect. Happiness is not fulfillment of what we wish for but an appreciation of what we have. Unless my reader has clear roots with Germany, this seldom seen word in today’s title may be foreign to you. Gestalt is a German word that...

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A lot of people have gone farther than they thought they could because someone else thought they could. - Anonymous By now, most of my readers are familiar with this author’s metaphor of the “snowman.” It is my representation that all human endeavor flows from one’s...

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Enjoy the little things. For one day, you may look back and realize they were the big things. R. Brault. Grace and Gratitude In 1995, Gary Chapman published The Five Love Languages. This simply written, layman-oriented book, described the five ways in which we express...

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Every kid is one caring adult from being a success story.   Josh Shipp I recently had the opportunity to catch up with a friend. I was on my way into town to meet with some of my former students who are now practicing clinicians. Let’s call him Dan. I was anxious to...

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As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world… as in being able to remake ourselves. – Mahatma Gandhi                                         OUR ADMIRABLE NEIGHBOR I had the opportunity to meet one of my neighbors, Jack, today. He...

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Be strong enough to stand alone Be smart enough to know when you need help. Be brave enough to ask.   Why Shakespeare was Wrong In the pantheon of great authors, William Shakespeare stands alone. The insights expressed via his plays’ characters dwarf the efforts of...

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Are You Growing Down?

Most people grow old; not everybody grows up. Are You “Growing Down”? When I was a child, I can recall various times and situations when I heard the adult dictum to “grow up.” Usually, this directive occurred when I (or some other kid) was being chastised for some...

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Advice? Take My Advice

The art of giving advice is to make the recipient believe s/he thought of it him/herself. Tygre Many years ago, I was a high school basketball coach. Like most of my peers, I spent much of my game time yelling at referees. On a continuum ranging from docile to Bobby...

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The failed pessimist shrinks from his deficits while the successful optimist expands upon his assets. John V. Farrar The sports world was agog (at least for one day) with the news that Magic Johnson abruptly resigned as the president of the NBA Los Angeles Lakers,...

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Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you. Fulghum I seem to have trouble keeping up with my own culture and social milieu. Just when I’d become comfortable and conversant with what “helicopter parents” are, I bumped up...

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Thoughts. Behaviors. Feelings. These are the three pillars of the Farrars' approach to counseling. As a cognitive counselor, Dr. John believes our behaviors and feelings stem from our thoughts.

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Dr. John & Anita treat both adults and adolescents on topics including chemical dependency, couples and family counseling, as well as employment-related problems and issues, with emphasis on not having to use recreational or prescribed substances.

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Dump the Neanderthal, Choose Your Prime Mate

Dr. John draws upon years of experience and his work with over 300 women to identify six reasons why women choose dysfunctional and under-achieving partners.

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